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Could Sleeping In Separate Bedrooms Save Your Marriage?


More and more couples are declaring “sleep divorces” to avoid the annoyance of snoring, restlessness or differing schedules. The term “sleep divorce” is a little hyperbolic since these couples are attempting to help their marriage by splitting their bedrooms.

According to TikTok, the hashtag #SleepDivorce has over 300,000 views as of the writing of this article. Could it be the next big trend in American marriages?

Do you have a sleep disorder? It could be contagious! 

Studies have shown that individuals who are dating those with sleep disorders also tend to end up with disordered sleep if not a full-blown sleep disorder. The concept is known as a chronotype. Different individuals have different chronotypes. Individuals who are morning people would do better with other morning people, and we can say the same thing about evening people as well. A third chronotype “intermediate” describes everyone who falls in between.

The concept of the chronotype is very different from a sleep schedule. An evening person may be on a morning routine, but still be more inclined to be on an evening routine.

So, the evening person wouldn’t be operating at peak efficiency if they were forced to operate in the morning.

Sleep hygiene for couples 

If your restless partner is keeping you up at night and this is impacting your lifestyle, then one way to save your marriage would be to let your partner drift off in a separate room where they’re influence on your sleep schedule is quarantined. While this may feel like the partnership is fracturing, it actually reifies both partner’s commitment to make the relationship work despite a major hurdle.

Sleep is necessary for a healthy lifestyle 

Recent studies have suggested that getting an adequate amount of good sleep could add years to your life. Around 8% of deaths can be attributed to poor sleep patterns. This also includes sleep apnea which is a dangerous condition because it slowly weakens the heart over time. It’s also quite difficult to sleep next to someone on a CPAP machine if you’re not used to it.

Further, your brain needs sleep after a full day of making memories and a failure to get enough sleep causes cognitive problems that could include job loss, anxiety, depression, and other comorbidities.

Good sleep hygiene includes all of the following:

  • Waking up rested at least 5 days a week
  • Getting 7 – 8 hours of sleep per night
  • Difficulty falling asleep for no more than 2 days a week
  • Difficulty staying asleep for no more than 2 days a week

All of these benefits are contingent on healthy natural sleep which means the use of sleep medications wouldn’t qualify you for the average of 4.7 years of extra life expectancy men get from sleeping. Women get 2.4 extra years, but outlive men on the norm anyway.

Talk to a Philadelphia Divorce Lawyer Today 

Sleep divorce not cutting it? Call Philadelphia family lawyer Lauren H. Kane today to schedule an appointment and learn more about how we can help.




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